Accidentally on Purpose
There is no such thing as an accident. When your soul chooses to leave your physical body, it will leave. Life is not an amateur circus tent where those who enter are individual, lonely performers with no script and no director-only a tumbling about, a fling through the air, and then a crash. No, that is false. As souls, you are self-determining. You decide when to be born. You create your life every minute of every day by what you choose to believe. You decide when to die. All things evolve around the total truth of love, balance, order, cause and effect. These are Divine laws.
Pat Rodegast, Emmanuel Book I You Have Chosen to Remember, p.137
Don’t drive faster than your guardian angel can fly!
–Anonymous
I am going to talk specifically about automobile accidents this week. In a future Kick! I will address other accidents in our lives and what they represent, but so often when we say that someone had “an accident” it is a car accident that comes to mind.
Accidents are definitely something to look at in regards to your life. They definitely get our attention, immediately. Whether we are personally involved or it is with a loved one. The difference between a fender-bender and a fatality is where you are energetically…what you have contracted to teach, or to learn, and whether or not you choose to opt for an exit point. We have built in “exit points” where we can choose to leave or choose to continue under the present circumstances. I have found that many fender-benders can be exit points that we have decided not to pursue, and instead choose to continue with current conditions and work with the free will choices of all involved in our current life circumstances.
Whether it is a fender bender or a more serious incident, the first question to ask yourself is: What you were doing at the time of the accident? Were you stopped? Were you in town, suburbs, country? How fast were you going? Was it weather related? Was it due to a malfunction? Tire, brakes, steering? What does the car part represent in regards to your life and your life’s journey?
Just as I look at parts and function of those parts, in an accident it is important to look at what and how the accident happened. Where were you hit? A left impact is a message regarding resistance in allowing or accepting something or someone (female) new into your life. A right impact is a message regarding a resistance to release something or someone (male) that you no longer need in your life.
I was introduced to a woman a couple years ago on a camping trip. In our conversation she confided that she had issues regarding her relationship with her husband. She tried to shift out of the marriage but was unsure about her decision because he was a kind and generous man. He was completely unaware of her feelings; she knew it would crush him to know she was feeling this way. She did not feel she had good reason to leave, even though she was very unhappy.
In so many cases, not being happy is not a good enough reason to shift out of a marriage; we need abuse or infidelity to validate the shift. What we don’t realize is what we give the most thought will attract circumstances or individuals that reside at the same vibration or energy, matching those thoughts, reinforcing those thought patterns. This principle, often referred to as The Law of Attraction works for positive thoughts as well as negative thoughts…
She and I had an interesting conversation about commitments, obligations, and honoring self…and I really felt that she would make the decision to leave the marriage, in part because she was in such misery and spent much of our time together lamenting over her situation. It was important for her to know that if she did not make the decision one way or the other, the universe would decide based on where her thoughts and energy were directed. She listened but did not necessarily hear those words nor the experiences I presented that backed them up.
What happened next is amazing, but also a wonderful testament to how the universe reacts and communicates our wants, our thoughts, and our energy. Months later after our meeting she was taking her husband’s car into the shop because car would literally just quit, no acceleration, nothing-it would just die on the spot. At the shop they supposedly fixed the problem, she picked it up to drive it home. On the interstate (yes, INTERSTATE) the car died…immediately thinking to pull over on the right shoulder of the interstate with the glide she had left, there was a police car that had just pulled over a speeder. She did not have any juice to move up and over.
The last thing she remembered was seeing a semi in her rearview mirror, all she could think to do was lie down on the seat, close her eyes and pray. When she woke up, she was in the hospital with various injuries but most crucial was a broken neck. Lucky to be alive? No, choosing to be alive. She was given an exit point, and instead of the exit, she chose to accept the challenges and move forward.
Ready for my analysis? Hold on to your hat, it is pretty interesting and…as always, obvious after the fact.
1) First of all, it was her husband’s car, not her own. Whose journey/life was she partaking in? Her husband’s, but not her own.
2) HIS car issues involved it dying unexpectedly, and nobody could identify the problem…nor fix the problem. He was completely unaware of her feelings and her thoughts of leaving (stopping) the marriage. The marriage was ready to die unexpectedly.
3) She was not only rear-ended, she was slammed from behind by a semi on the interstate with her only escape route blocked by someone STOPPED for speeding. She was so intense about wanting to get out of the relationship, but also feeling intense guilt about leaving, and there she was, in the “intense” lane of traffic, stopped with no where to turn. She was rear-ended in grand fashion. And the car was crushed, HIS car was crushed…and she had used this very term to describe what he would feel if she did leave the relationship.
Also, being rear-ended is all about being bumped, nudged, pushed, slammed, or forced into action. She was forced into action and making a decision.
4) Broken neck: The neck is THE connector of the mind and the body. Everything passes through the neck: food, air, thoughts, blood…all is “connected” with the neck. A broken neck is being disconnected, particularly in regard to relationships because it is the direct connection between your head and your heart. If you remember, her heart was saying one thing, her head another. A broken neck/broken bones, represent your very foundation. Broken bones and the ensuing pain are the most severe message from the universe, getting your immediate attention. There is a need to address things immediately regarding related issues with the corresponding broken bone, in her case getting reconnected with what really matters.
She finally did get connected with what mattered most. She decided to stay and work on her life, her joys, and the marriage. She realized that you can change a situation by changing the way you look at a situation. And changing the way you look at a situation is what the neck is all about! She recovered completely from her injuries and is even back to riding horses again. She seems happier and I look forward to catching up with her again this fall.
Here is another example that is not so extreme, in part because she was able to give it her attention and address the concerns early on (in what I like to call the “feather stage”). I had a conversation a few weeks ago with a young woman that had one accident after another and not a single one was her fault. She was trying to make sense out of the messages. I give her a tremendous amount of credit, many people would not see these incidents as messages. More severe accidents are what I refer to as “the elephant on your head” because you did not listen to the feathers of guidance given before.
All of her incidents were out of her control, so there was one clue to what was going on in her life…and on top of that they were all rear-end collisions, even one took place while she was parked in a parking lot. All were determined to be the other driver’s fault, so there is another underlying theme of perhaps taking on responsibility for someone in her life that would not take on responsibility themselves?
As with the woman with the interstate collision, rear-end bumps or collisions are about being forced or shoved forward…it could be because you are hesitant or resistant to do so or it could be because you are in a situation that you feel bullied or pushed by someone or something (like a client or family situation) to make a decision. It could be the universe pushing you forward or it could be the universe revealing that you feel you are being pushed unfairly out of your comfort zone. In this young woman’s case, she was being pushed out of her comfort zone, but not necessarily in a bad way.
After talking with her she actually came to her own conclusion, which was wonderful. She was finally with a partner that did not judge or become angry and she felt that these incidents were a message, or proof, that he was understanding and non-judgmental in respect to her direction and life journey. She was not used to being respected in this manner, therefore the universe was basically responding to her doubts and bumping her into a positive change. One of the cars was his car, she waited for the anger and the judgment, because that is what she was used to…it still didn’t come. Her testing was over and she is now even more confident in her relationship.
This shift in attitude has also brought a shift in work, with a promotion and yet another shove in a positive direction. Sometimes our self-esteem will put up the blocks and create the incidents we “didn’t see coming.” When you look back you realize you not only saw it coming, you created it to begin with. Recognize your power to create both positive and negative experiences and harness the positive.
I have talked about rear-end collisions, but side collisions also very common. Determining their messages are dependent on which side the collision takes place.
Left side is being forced to accept or allow something or someone in your life. It may also have something to do with a forceful female (and think about yourself if you are female or pack a feminine energy in the relationship).
Right side is being forced to give something or someone up and there is a resistance to do so. Again, think about yourself if you are male or pack a male energy in the relationship.
It is an impact, and you are forced to give it your attention. The other thing to consider is that you may be hit on the left, but it often shoves you to the right (forced to release something) or hit on the right and shoved to the left (forced to reevaluate something). OR! You could be like I was and put into a spin, it was a right spin by the way, so there was a need to balance out my life…and I was not hit by another vehicle, I hit a puddle while on a sharp curve. Water and ice skids are all about emotions and not being able to gain traction on an emotional level.
Accidents that involve the front of the vehicle, like my front bumper that was peeled off in my spin, are messages about your journey and your approach to moving forward. Is the hood crunched? Bumper out? Headlight(s) broken or just a front fender? Left front is about your hesitation to allow yourself to move forward, not feeling that you have the correct things in place. The right fender is about your hesitation to let go and just move forward. You don’t trust yourself to take that leap of faith.
Head on collisions more than anything stop you in your tracks immediately. They are serious and often deadly, particularly at high speeds. They can be deadly and dangerous even at lower speeds. These are often planned (contracted) exit points, and are packed with some of our most powerful human lessons pertaining to guilt, forgiveness, grief, and acceptance.
If you have experienced such a loss or know of someone that is working through these lessons I would like to recommend a dear friend, Bryn Blankinship, CMHt with the Newton Institute. She has done grief work with Life Between Lives (LBL) sessions and has one case studied featured in Michael Newton’s latest bestseller: Memories of the Afterlife. Her session involved a woman seeking understanding and peace following a tragic car crash that killed two of her three grandchildren (ages 10 and 7). It is an insightful perspective on accidents, contracts, and exit points.
Accidents involving vehicles are a common occurrence, and the statistics that are out there are staggering. My daughter just received her driver’s license. The Commonwealth of Virginia is the only state in the United States that conducts a legal ceremony IN THE COURT ROOM WITH A JUDGE to present the parents or legal guardians with the teen’s license. It is then at the discretion of the parent to award their teen the license. AND the parents are the first line of discretion with the power to revoke the license at any time, backed up by the DMV! Amazing system, an intelligent system.
It was a humbling and amazing afternoon, and it was educational, full of stories, warnings, videos, and information regarding the privileges of driving a vehicle. I invite you to look at your own life’s journey, as well as those members of your family with driving privileges. Look beyond the fender benders and mechanical issues and discern what messages you may be receiving, they may be receiving.
Course correcting extends far beyond that GPS system…be open, be aware, and always, always be safe. Blessings. Catherine
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